15 July 2017 @ 10:12 am
This week has been a doozy. First came the workplace politics, where I discovered someone believes I have been bullying a close friend of mine into doing things she doesn't want to do. It's such an astonishing mis-read of the situation that I was actually rendered speechless when I heard, and not only is it a horrible thing to think about me, it's a horrible thing to think about my friend. I have no idea what has prompted this interpretation of events, except to say that last night I remembered that the person who believes this is firm and fast friends with a former supervisor of mine, who famously remarked in a work evaluation of me that I wasn't nice enough. (Which - what? And second - can you imagine a man ever getting that in an eval? Me either.) I have no idea if their friendship is at play in this, but the last time I was so fundamentally misunderstood was that eval. For whatever that's worth.

Learning this was unbelievably painful, especially as it has repercussions for the department in which I serve, and I spent a lot of this week feeling very low about it all.

And then there was a situation where I did every last thing right, and ended up without a reimbursement on Wednesday as I'd been promised, and so things bounced at the bank, and I ended up with fees, and then I ended up in a mad scramble to make sure my water wasn't turned off. And then there was the letter about a loan from my retirement account that has been declared in default, which means I will owe taxes on it next spring, despite the bankruptcy proceedings. *HANDS* As I remarked to Rachel, I am the opposite of King Midas. Everything I touch turns to NOT gold.

But! I started bouncing back from all this junk on Thursday, and then my brother arrived yesterday for a weekend visit. It's so fun to have him here, and it's so easy to hang out with him. Today we're headed to the farmer's market and an art pop-up market and to hopefully have lunch with some friends. The weather has miraculously agreed to stay fairly cool while he's here, too, which is nice, since the last two times he's visited it's been above 90 his whole stay. We can get out and about much more pleasantly now! I feel really lucky that we've remade a relationship as adults, and that we've both turned out as good, fun people despite the odds. It's not true for everyone's situation, and I will count myself lucky to have this good thing come out of the ashes of the old.

Off to find green beans and corn and flowers ♥
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mirabile[personal profile] mirabile on July 16th, 2017 12:12 am (UTC)
That is one shitty week, dear Cate. I'm so glad your brother is there to take your mind off everything. I hope you found green beans, corn, and flowers; you deserve them, especially the flowers.
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sheafrotherdon[personal profile] sheafrotherdon on July 19th, 2017 12:49 pm (UTC)
I did find all of those things, plus some deliciously gnarly carrots covered in dirt still. Yay!
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lexstar29[personal profile] lexstar29 on July 16th, 2017 08:41 am (UTC)
Oh honey that sounds very trying. I hope that the misunderstanding from your colleague can be quickly quashed, along with any departmental repercussions. Then to have the money issue on top, when you'd done everything right. I'm sorry it was such a week.

I'm thrilled you get to close it out with seeing your brother through. I hope you had a wonderful day yesterday and found green beans, corn and flowers. I hope today is a peaceful day and that the week ahead is a good one.
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sheafrotherdon[personal profile] sheafrotherdon on July 19th, 2017 12:50 pm (UTC)
♥s to you!
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kass[personal profile] kass on July 16th, 2017 10:44 am (UTC)
Oh, honey, I am so sorry it was such a hard week on so many levels. That work thing just makes me furious on your behalf. And the money stuff is just damned annoying.

But I am so glad you are having a good visit with your brother! <3 <3 <3
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sheafrotherdon[personal profile] sheafrotherdon on July 19th, 2017 12:51 pm (UTC)
Brother visit was so lovely. I wish it could have been longer! That said, I hit a wall Sunday night of being perfectly torn between "I want to soak up every minute he's here" with "I have been on for three days and am exhausted." But maybe a longer visit would have not had me feeling quite so "on". Who knows! I am glad to have had the time I did.
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